Phew!! The past few days I have been experiencing moments of … hmm let’s say a bit of shocked, panic attack, sad, angry etc. and the best would be happy ???

I’m sure everyone has heard of stories of people got scammed, their accounts got hacked etc.

When I was reading these stories, I sympathised with the victims and yet I never thought it will happen to me. Lol and behold! Last Wednesday, it did happened! My account with Uber got hacked and somebody somewhere in Europe used my account to have jolly good “free” rides (many rides okay) with me paying for the trips. In total after conversion it was about $500 plus.

The hacker started using my account since Monday. Luckily since I frequently checked my account, I noticed these unauthorised deductions by Wednesday. I quickly went down to my bank and reported this abuse to Uber.

Within one hour, everything got settled. Uber thankfully responded to my report within half an hour and stopped all transactions and reimbursed me.

My bank cancelled my card and issue a new one to me while at the same time, filed my report.

Within 2 days, I got my money back. Alhamdulillah!!! Phew!!!

Lesson learnt from the above experience? It would be good for banks to allow us to have a card just for online transaction whereby we only transfer money to it when we need to pay for our online transaction. Unfortunately, right now all cards issued, the balance in the account must either be above $500 or $1000 if not there will be a service charged.

It will be good if this can be done …. if not then the alternative would be to be very careful not to keep your account in any online company.

Ok the experience above was my moment of panic, angry and frustration.

Then there was the moment of incredulous …. as I said I am now more of a silent reader than an active contributer to the ASK chat group. I pity my hubby …. I don’t see why he should be treated that way but as I said before all things bad or good that happened to us … in one way or another there are blessings. From the things that recently happened, at least we can see how other people perceive him, how they hold him in their eyes …. it’s a pity really but its a reality that most of us are ruled by our feelings and when the feelings are negative we forget to be kind to those we dislike… and its truly sad when kindness could not be extended to one’s sibling especially one that’s older.

Hubby actually pulled himself out of the chat group …. and when one of the cousin asked “why he left” … the youngest bro told her he will talk with his brother (and which of course he did not …. it was just for show this impression of being concern). No one from his side of the family bothers to ask him why? As per say, “actions speaks louder than words”. It also showed the lack of open communication between them. The only thing that happened was one of the other brother (who’s one of the admin for the group) just added him back. Hubby was not happy but he decided to leave things alone. No privacy there, it’s like one is not given the choice to decide whether one wants to be in the group or not.

A cousin PM hubby asking him if he accidentally deleted himself out but hubby chose not to answer that question.

I feel sad for him …. I can understand that as he grows older he is more sensitive. He is a very patience person and for him to take such an action means he has reached his limit.

Anyway, that’s between him and his brothers. It takes all kind of people …. so what’s important is we be aware of our own actions, words (and when I said words, it include those we typed as we chat online) …. only we are responsible for what we do and act …. life is really about action and reaction. One’s negative action will bring about another person’s negative reaction. It’s a vicious cycle and we must learn to know when to cut off this negativity and always remember not to do to others what we do not want others to do to us.

A reminder that always needed to be reminded …. and that’s why I think the less active in the social world the better. Anyway that’s my motto 🙂

Okay that’s enough of the negative moments …. I am happy to say that within the same week, I received news that my maknae passed her exam and has been promoted to Sec 4. Alhamdulillah! Even though she did not score well in the marks but I am just grateful and happy that she continues to move on to the next level of her academic journey. Jiayou WQ! 🙂

I am also very happy that I was able to attend my second learning journey class with Zan’s Treats. The class on learning to bake layered cakes was great! It was fun and we learnt a lot of tips and techniques. It was also very very tiring. Doing the layering bit by bit was time consuming and by the end of the day I was “bushed”. Both my feet were in agony hahaha…. but it was worth it and rewarding when I saw how my kids and hubby enjoyed what I baked 🙂

Lapis learning journey … two types of layered cake in one day

Alhamdulillah Ya Rabb! For all things that happened to us all. Alhamdulillah was letting us experience the up and down of life.



Hot and bothered

Whoa!!! The heat is back and with a vengeance. The humidity level can be unbearable at times. Due to the hot weather during the past week and as well as coming days, I think my water bill will increase cos of the frequent showers taken at home hehee

I’m just glad to be inside the office these days …. so much cooler thanks to the air-con. It is times like this that I wish I could afford to install air-con at home.

Ok enough talk of the weather ….

I need to let out my inner thoughts ….

I have chosen to withdraw from too much social life for the past 2 years … and I find comfort in it.

Then last month, I was pulled back to become active again …. pulled by the draw of family bond, thanks to my hubby’s cousins.

Yet, an incident happened during the chat when different people gave different views. To me it’s ok to agree to disagree but nevertheless it was uncomfortable to read these negativity.

Luckily, few of the cousins were very good at keeping things easy and jovial to deflect the awkwardness that happened.

These happenings makes me want to withdraw again …. but before I do that …. today I went in to share what gems I found during my research on the family. It will be the few last things I will share with them …. they deserve to know cos it’s their rights as these were about their ancestors.

I will not go on further ….. it will be up to them to do so if they’re interested in the archival project. Though from what I see now, many are not interested and this is of no surprise. Family history are very dry subjects … .especially if its about people who are no longer in the living world.

I’m closing the book on this and unless I feel the need to answer or the need to contribute …. I will henceforth be a silent reader.

I miss my solitude and shall withdraw into my shell for the moment …. I am afterall by nature an introvert …. its just that I learn to become an extrovert.

Going back to be active in the social world just makes me realise that I can’t do it for long term …. I need a breather after a short stint …. I need my “me time” and my solitude.

I need to focus back on what is essential to me.


Of stress and chats

Hah! ….. this week is just one of those weeks when my kids decided to throw out unexpected aches on me 😦

fening fening kefaler arr … huhu

I think one of the most hazardous jobs …. at least to the emotional side is being a mother ….. Mother with the middle name being Stress! 😛

Though I have moments of relief …. have to thank the new chat group that sprung just a few days ago. Woke up in the middle of the night and when I checked the time on my hp, was surprise to see the new group and my name in it. Reading the funny chats among hubby relatives was a stress reliever and the photos shared are like precious gems 🙂

I am really an old soul hahaha….. I love anything old …. to me they are more valuable and so very very precious. I think this is something I get by being a librarian for more than 25 years 😉

So yeah this week has been stressful and I think it's time to take a long break and go jalan-jalan …… time to plan for one 😉

Look-See Look-see ….. where should I go and when????



I was woken up at pre-dawn by sounds of heavy running and shouting. At first I thought there was a fight somewhere nearby …. I quickly got up and look out of the window but could see nothing. Still hearing those sounds, I made my way to the living room and look out of the balcony. What I saw shocked me for a team of fire-fighters were all busy putting up water hoses ….. it was then I realised that there was a fire nearby.

I looked further down and thought it was the block opposite my house but then I realised more and more people were gathering at the void deck at the opposite block and looking at my block.

I went to open my front door and that was when I saw the smoke coming out from the 7th storey. A neighbour’s flat was on fire 😦

Praying and hoping no one was injured, I continued to watch as the fire was put out.

Alhamdulillah …. within moments the fire was out and everything was silent again. Kuddos to the firemen for their hard work. As for my neighbour, I hope everything could be settle as soon as possible and that no one was injured during the breakout.

Evolvement of life

Happy Monday everyone!

Hope today begins as a start of all good things to happen within this whole week. Insya’Allah!

The rest of my kids are starting their new term today. I hope the traffic will be smooth despite the begin of new term for the ITE students. Hope the red and green MRT line do not have any further hiccups throughout the day and the week.

Today’s topic on my mind is actually on the evolvement of life … how everyone of us goes through life either by facing hardships or a life of ease at the beginning and then it gets better or we fall from grace and how like a cycle, again we go through up and down at different interval of our lives …. how at times we start with being a badass and yet midway we evolve to be a better person.

So really change is a cycle and very constant …. always happening, sometimes slowly and at times rapidly … and the how and when we go through this cycle is the only unpredictable factor.

Whatever it is …. whether its negative or positive …. we can’t avoid change. All we can do is try our best to evolve our internal self to accept and adapt to the changes. At any time, most important is not to let go of the tie between us and the Almighty. The link between us and God is something that acts as an anchor, stabilising us when going through life’s negative cycle. Do not let go even if our link seems to be the weakest …. just hang on to it and pray and be positive. For in every hardships there will be ease. Be patience for the silver lining will be there.

A quote from Mufti Menk: “Calamity has its blessings. Embrace it. The Almighty knows. He has seen how it can transform a harsh person into one with the kindest heart.

And when we are facing the positive changes …. always be thankful and do our best to keep the blessings hidden. Why?

Another quote from Mufti Menk:Don’t underestimate the evil-eye. It’s real. As far as possible, keep your blessings hidden. Be humble. Make the Almighty your focus.

Jealousy is real …. the people whom we think likes us and trusts us are the ones most likely to back-stab us. I’ve seen it and I’ve gone through it. People whom I thought are like my own sisters, smiling one moment in front of me and yet behind me spread falsehood about me. The most disappointing are those who in the face of negative situation do not even defend you when they know they could have done so and help ease the situation.

Office politics is also another thing that are always happenings …. and these are mostly negative as well.

So be humble and protect the heart from hurt by keeping a certain distance from other people. Continue to be kind and friendly but be aware of life’s treacherous ways and learn to protect yourself. For these reasons, I am now more comfortable being in my own company and do not seek other people companion unnecessarily. The less we interact, the less we are open to mistakes and negative situations.

As a reminder, I too need to protect myself from feeling jealous towards other people, must always be thankful for what I am and what I have.

Happenings in life will make us evolve ….. what we should watch out for and hope for is that the evolvements are positive ones. Do not be afraid of changes …. accept and adapt. Insya’Allah we will come out better and wiser.


Raya drama

Ok this post is me letting out steam!!!

Hari raya is almost 2 weeks old and there are few dramas going on year by year ….. one drama in particular which I have to say I am sick of hearing it again and again is this:

Raya drama Kecil Hati:
The story of people who “kecil hati” cos we did not go to their house. As I have explained again and again … the existing culture do not works for me anymore. I do not have the energy to go house hopping one by one. No energy and no time ….. so once I’ve met the people to me that’s it! Objection met …. we meet and we interact. Good enough! This is my choice and my action and so yes I am responsible for them.

So please do not be a hypocrite and say “Oh ok I understand” and yet behind me you started to grouch and be “kecil hati”. You choose to come to my house and so that’s your choice and you are responsible for that choice. For me any visitors are welcome to my house and so that’s my choice.

So if you’re going to act this way, next year please remind yourself that you are under no obligation to come to my house …. do not worry that I will be “kecil hati” ….. Insya’Allah that will not happen as it has been my choice to change the way I celebrate my raya.